oh man, i’m sorry! possessive partners in any relationship is always a bit of a downer, especially for people outside that relationship who have to bear the brunt of the jealousy.
i do think what you have to realise is is that his girlfriend doesn’t have any say in who gets to be friends with him, if she does, then that is not a healthy relationship and he should probably get out of it. i know that sometimes doing something can possibly lead to very unpleasant situations happening, but if you care about this guy as a friend, then you have EVERY RIGHT IN THE WORLD TO WISH HIM A HAPPY BIRTHDAY.
you’re not making a move on him, you’re not doing anything except wishing him well on his birthday. and if his girlfriend can’t handle that, then tell her calmly and rationally that she has no reason to be upset, and if she was a reasonable person she’d understand. if she doesn’t, then maybe it’s time to tell your friend to have a serious conversation with her.
personally, my opinion is: she doesn’t own him, she doesn’t own you. talk to him as a friend however much you want.
oh my god, that is so so kind of you!! i literally just sat here for the last couple of minutes with a huge goofy grin on my face! i try my best and honestly, reading all of these messages make me to happy to hear how wonderful all these people are, and you’re so so kind and wonderful and thank you for this message!!
god help me TALL & BROWN HAIR & GREEN EYES
DEEP VOICE TOO *silently screams*
IN A BAND *flails about violently*
annnnnnd SHUCK NO WHAT HAPPENED??? ):
you should pluck up that courage that you had and ASK HIM ABOUT IT. ask him why he stopped stalking to you and tell him why it confused you so much. and maybe ASK HIM OUT GIRL DON’T LOSE THAT COURAGE OF YOUR ASK THAT MAN OUT!!!!
still doing this love, have no fear ;)
AHHH EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE excited for you! and oh my gosh, cyprus that’s so cool ahhhhh i hear it’s a beautiful place. YOU SHOULD TOTALLY HANG OUT WITH THEM AGAIN AND FILL ME IN ON HOW IT GOES!! :DDD
BEARDS *FLAPS HANDS*
oh man that is super rough sweetheart i’m so sorry. i used to have the worst crush on a teacher of mine because he was a huge support during my rough years in high school he taught history and was tall and sweet and caring and also very very married and it took me a while to get over it (two years in fact so dw i know exactly how you feel)
the thing is to remember that having crushes on your teachers can be normal. a lot of times, teachers are the ones who are kind and caring and offer you great advice and it’s not hard to develop a crush on someone who seems to care about you a lot. but you gotta remember that while they may be genuine in being kind, he is at the end of the day, your teacher. he is obliged to help you grow as an individual, and the important thing is to not mistake that for romantic interest. that’s a can of worms we’d rather leave closed yeah? xD
but otherwise, he sounds like an amazing person, and who doesn’t love intelligence? style and sass are also huge plus! :D
oh she sounds absolutely gorgeous!! actors and actresses impress me so much i always wonder how they get their talents sighhhh
oh man, go for it! ask her out for coffee! maybe, if you’re both into theatre, invite her out to a play or musical? if you like her a lot, then don’t let the chance slip by you! or you can do something simple and sweet or maybe just tell her honestly how you feel :DDD
you never know what will happen unless you go for it!! I’M ROOTIN’ FOR YOU!!
beautiful dark skin *FLAILS ARMS* AHHHHHHHHHH
that’s so sweet aahhhh he sounds so gorgeous i’m almost jealous (shh don’t tell eleven pls omg)
i’m glad it seems like you’re having a lot of fun, which is great and fantastic! i hope everything goes well no matter which way it goes! :DD
I’M SO HAPPY YOU’RE DATING HIMMM :DDDDDDD
and mmmm lemme tell you i have a weakness for beards hahahahaha AND DAMN i’m sorry distance sucks so bad!! and wow, navy! that’s so cool oh my godddddddddd
but think of it this way: august is barely a month away. YOU’LL SEE EACH OTHER IN NO TIME I’M SURE OF IT AND I’LL SILENTLY CHEER YOU ON FROM MY BEDROOM WAVING LITTLE FLAGS
oh honey, you’re not stupid! don’t think that. people get flustered and they do things they don’t mean to, and it’s fine! we’re humans, we make mistakes, and we learn from them. (:
have you tried talking to him again? maybe apologising for your rudeness the first time round and explain why you reacted the way you acted? i’m sure if he’s a great guy, he won’t hold it against you if you sincerely apologise.
(if he does then screw him YOU DESERVE BETTER!!)
AND PALE SKIN AND DARK HAIR = WINNING COMBINATION OF LOOKS
and never apologise for talking to me YOU AND EVERY SINGLE ONE OF MY FOLLOWERS CAN TALK TO ME ANY TIME YOU LIKE AND I WILL ALWAYS ANSWER
and if i don’t it’s because tumblr was stupid and ate your message or i missed it amongst a stack of other qs
he sounds really great and you two sound like you really found a common ground with each other, you know? and he seems to be super sweet!
yeah, i know. it can be SUPER frustrating. and you know what? it is. i think it’s okay to feel like you’re ‘friendzoned’. it’s not the word that is bad, it’s the people who use the word and add bad intentions to it. friend zone means “they only see me as a friend and i’m disappointed about it” because let’s face it, everyone is allowed to be upset when someone doesn’t return their feelings. as long as you don’t use the term with a sense of “HEY THEY OWE ME because i’m nice” then i think it’s fine (:
and shucks i’m so sorry to hear that. sexuality really is a bummer and it sucks when the person you like doesn’t consider your gender when they think of dating at all. if he is for certain not into you, then cherish the moments you have as friends! you guys sound like the best of mates and if anything, friendship is the most important thing to have in your life. maybe time will change things, maybe not, but he seems like the kinda guy who’d stick by you and always have your back :)
don’t worry hun. lemme tell you a secret: everyone is bad at this. relationships are a messy messy business, and even when it goes right it can still be messy as hell.
the best way to go about this is to ask yourself - is it worth trying to figure this out or not? whether he likes you again or not?
i know how it is after breaking up and not being able to get over the person you had feelings for because you spent so long loving them and thinking about them and being around them, and it is hard to get over someone. (it took me around a year to completely get over my ex)
if you really still do like him, then i’d reckon ask him. you have everything to gain in this situation - if he does feel the same way, maybe you can both work out your differences from the first time and try again? if he doesn’t, then it’s a good way to give yourself some peace of mind and a chance to start afresh!
more often than not, at least in my experience, a guy appreciates it if you’re straightforward with him. i reckon pluck up your courage and ask him, and see how it goes from there! :D
NO NO NOT A CLICHEEEEE (my bf was my best friend too and we got mistaken for being a couple as well hahahaha)
cliche chick flicks means that the protagonist always gets the man in the end though, doesn’t it? ;D
but in all honesty, it was good of you to help him out with his relationship. be happy that he’s happy!! and he’s still your best guy friend, so you’re never going to lose that awesome friendship! and who knows, maybe in the future, there’s hope for you two as a couple!
next time, take the first step and ask him out! even if it doesn’t work, you guys are best friends and best friends won’t hold grudges against that sort’ve thing ;DDDD
man this boy sounds intense and super attractive!! :DDD
and you can never go wrong with someone who gives amazinnnnnng hugs because hugs are literally the best things in the world <3
i’d probably fall for that (hnnng glorious musclesssss)
eeeeee! i love boys who play instruments and ugh the guitar is to die for!! and awww shucks, the timing sucks, does it? but don’t give up hope, he might become unattached one day ;)
ahhhhh i love writers! communication is always important. and ahhh if he doesn’t mind, then do you mind waiting for him? a year can be a long time, but also very short. a lot can change, or nothing can change much. even if it does change, change doesn’t mean it’s necessarily a bad thing.
a year of letters and communication can still work out in the long run! don’t give into doubts and insecurity too much. you’re still young! live with hope and optimism, that’s what i always say. (: