This is why Tom Hiddleston is slowly taking over the world.
“I hate you” she whispered as she reblogged this post
Aslan
awwwww shucks nonnie, that’s really nice of you to say :’)
i’m glad you feel that way now, and i’m really flattered i had something to do with it!
to everyone else, my ask box is ALWAYS open if you need advice or just someone to talk to. don’t hesitate to drop me a message if you want to talk, anonymous or not~
from the looks of it, you and your boyfriend are in a good comfortable relationship right now and that is great to hear! however, it’s not great to hear that others are hounding you about it.
my advice to you is this: screw what the others think.
your relationship is your own - it is between you and your boyfriend, and there is no other party involved. this means that they don’t have a say on how you guys should behave or act in public, despite what most people your age are doing.
if you both don’t like PDA, that is absolutely fine. that is MORE than fine. as long as both of you in the relationship are comfortable with where you are and what you both do, then there’s no reason to change that.
if people ask you again, tell them this: that you don’t feel comfortable sharing around details like that because it’s private, and they should stop prying and assuming things just because you two don’t behave like every one else.
in my experience, high school kids tend to be very immature and like to pry into personal relationships a lot. they want the juicy details and gossip, and so they feel let down if there isn’t a lot. don’t let them get to you. once again, THEY’RE NOT IN THE RELATIONSHIP, YOU TWO ARE. and therefore, your and your boyfriend’s wishes and opinions should be the only ones that matter when it comes to physical intimacy between you two.
so recently i’ve realised that there are a lot of blogs out there that are specifically designed to spread love and positive stuff, which is wonderful, but where’s the blog that we all need to go to to vent out all our anger??
so basically this is it: anything you want to vent about, no matter how small or large, here’s the place to do it. vent to your hearts content!
If I was a famous author I would publish a book with ten different endings which all went to print with varying degrees of rarity, but not tell the fans about it so that I could watch their confusion as they disagree over how the story ended. Then when they figured it out I would ‘come clean’, telling them that I had released eleven alternate endings and watch them panic again as they all try to find the last ending.
This is perfect.
oh gosh. i’m so sorry about all this happening to you hun, i really am. and i guess i’m kinda flattered that you would come to me for advice… but i’m not really sure what advice i can give you, to tell the truth.
yes, my best friend is a guy and yes we ended up together, but we’re just one example out of HUNDREDS out there.
so firstly, i firmly believe that a guy and a girl can be friends without having some sort of attraction between them. obviously in my case, this didn’t happen, but i’m am positive that there are many instances where nothing ever happens between two best friends of the opposite gender because they just don’t like each other that way.
so with that in mind, back to you problem. the main issue i have right now with this situation is that the guy did something wrong. he had a girlfriend, and regardless of whether or not he was intoxicated, he still shouldn’t have done that. it’s even worse that he made this mistake with his best friend.
now, it really comes down to how much you trust him. i can’t really speak for either him or the best friend in this situation, since i don’t know your relationship with him or his with hers. i reckon talk to him about it. i know how much this sucks, but talking to him first can seriously help. make sure he knows how much this troubles you, and tell him why this makes you so insecure. trust is the most important aspect of a relationship, and talking it out between you two is really really important.
two, if you can, have a talk with his best friend. chances may be that she might be totally not okay with him doing that either, and she doesn’t like him at all that way. it might help settle you mind and insecurities if you talk to her.
i guess there isn’t much more i can help you with. it’s really all down to how much you’re willing to trust him. if he’s always been a trustworthy guy, faithful and kind and etc, then yes this might’ve just been a horrible mistake (but it doesn’t make it right, remember that!). if he’s done some pretty dubious stuff before… then i suggest maybe reconsider your relationship with him. i guess don’t do anything rash, and trust your gut instinct. if your mind is telling you something is a bad idea, then listen to it. 9 times out of 10, you’re probably gonna be right.
i hope this helps in some way dear, and best of luck! xox
do you ever just look at someone and then suddenly you think “yep, that’s it, that’s them and that’s perfect” and then you stare at them like a goof
Harry Potter, the youngest seeker in a century.
